Psychology Today says…
“a behavior is said to be self-sabotaging when it creates problems in our life and interferes with long-standing goals. Among the most common self-sabotaging behaviors are procrastination, self-medication with drugs or alcohol, comfort eating, and forms of self-injury such as cutting. These acts may seem helpful in the moment, but they ultimately undermine us, especially when we engage in them repeatedly.”
One of the amazing things we are able to do as humans with high-functioning brains is that we can create goals and plan ahead.
Yet so many of us interfere with our own goals.
We get in our own way.
We procrastinate and put off our goals because we are afraid to fail.
We seek false-pleasures (over eating, overspending, etc.) instead of doing the hard work.
We quit because we are not seeing results right away!
NOTE: Quitting will not get you results any quicker. 😉
Then what tends to happen is that we fall into a self-sabotage spiral…
We focus on the failures of the past and either tell ourselves we will fail before we even try OR we don’t even set a goal because we don’t want to be disappointed.
You are worthy and capable of making and reaching big goals!!
If you can recognize that the brain wants immediate pleasure and seeks comfort (eat when tired or stressed, relax instead of going to the gym, give up because it is easier), then you can also understand that self-sabotaging thoughts are normal.
With this understanding, you can recognize when you are getting these negative thoughts or emotions… and then DECIDE to take the action that will help you reach your goals.